Working With and CelebratingAutistic Colleagues
Module 4 · If you are a peer of someone autistic › 4.5 Module 4 checkpoint
Subsection 4.5

Module 4 checkpoint

~5 min

Module 4 Checkpoint

Confirm you can be the kind of peer who writes norms, repairs friction, and notices the small daily signals that make a team somewhere autistic colleagues stay.

You have completed Module 4: If you are a peer of someone autistic. Answer these four questions to confirm your understanding.

Why is the Double Empathy Problem often sharpest at the peer level?

Correct. Peers see each other most, are usually untrained, and the volume of micro-interactions adds up fast. Peer-to-peer is high-volume and low-training. Managers, in theory, are trained for adaptation. Peers usually are not, and the small interactions accumulate into belonging or its absence.

Two peers (at least one autistic) are starting a new collaboration. What's the right first move?

Correct. Mutual, written, up-front. Both sides adapt. Formality at the start saves friction later. The point is mutual adaptation. If only the autistic peer is doing disclosure work, you've recreated the deficit framing. Fill it out together.

An autistic colleague asks in a project channel: 'why did we decide X?' What's the most useful interpretation?

Correct. Literal questions deserve literal answers. Directness is not aggression. 'Why did we decide X?' is a literal question. Treat it as curiosity and answer directly. Coding it as aggression is the Double Empathy Problem playing out in real time.

A peer brings you (the manager) a complaint that an autistic colleague's email 'came across a bit cold'. The work itself was correct and on time. What do you do?

Correct. Equitable management refuses to adjudicate tone. Address substance first. Tone is not substantive performance data. Redirect to the actual work. If the work was correct and on time, the complaint is about style — which is not yours to coach away.

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Peer in Practice

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Template

Peer Collaboration Norms Worksheet

You've earned access to this template by completing Module 4. Two-person worksheet for writing how you'll work together, signing it, and logging friction when it shows up. Use it at the start of any new collaboration.

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Where the shapes meet at midcourse

A halfway look at your shape, with autistic colleagues

You took the self-assessment in 1.5. Modules 2 through 4 have given you four working contexts to test the result: team stages, manager 1:1s, manager feedback and accommodations, and now peer collaboration. Read this as a checkpoint, not a verdict.

  • ■ Square (Steady Builder): by now you have probably noticed how much an autistic teammate stays for the documented expectation, the standing 1:1, the written norm. Module 2 likely felt natural. Watch Module 3.4 — process can crowd out the specific reasonable adjustment.
  • ▲ Triangle (Decisive Driver): Modules 3 and 4 will have surfaced the cost of speed. Clarifying questions read as pushback; silence read as agreement; “let's move” read over an unmade decision. The repair is small: write the call, share the call, name a date.
  • ● Circle (Relational Anchor): you have probably been the one teammates come to. The risk by Module 4 is becoming the unpaid translator and the soft landing for every unwritten norm. Move the labor into the norms doc (4.2) and the 1:1 template (3.2).
  • ∿ Squiggle (Creative Disruptor): the pairings in Module 4.1 are your strongest lane and your hardest watch-out. The campaign is best when you reframe and then commit. The teammate drains when you keep re-opening the brief.

Bring this read to Module 5 — reporting to an autistic manager will press whichever shape you lead with. Pull your worksheet back out before you start.

Action: Complete all four quiz questions, then slide to finish Module 4 and move to Module 5.